Suppose you have a boy, he is divorced or he wants to get divorced, then do you expel him from your house? Do you explain to her that adjust the daughter-in-law, our nose will be cut off if you divorce her or if you get divorced then what will happen to other siblings? Do you put pressure on him to compromise to such an extent that he gives his life? Leave yourselves, look around or far and tell whether you have seen any family in which the parents have asked their boy not to adjust for divorce in order to respect the family? Probably not. Why would anyone ask his child to compromise against his happiness?
On the contrary, it must have been seen that after the divorce, things start for the second marriage for the boy, what is the age of our boy right now? Get married, its been life long. Isn’t it so? Then why are girls called all this? Why are girls becoming Aisha? In the last call recording, Ayesha kept crying repeatedly saying that Papa is not being supported anymore. I’m going to die Why Ayesha’s father, who was on the verge of dying, listened saying that I will go to Jalore and make reconciliation with your family? Everything will be solved, I will solve everything.
The girl’s parents will have to try to understand that their so-called dignity is not greater than their own daughter’s life and her happiness. If a daughter takes a step like Ayesha or dowry-greedy in-laws kill her, then it is not just the girl’s family, the whole country shines at the news of that incident, just like watching the viral video of Ayesha in Ahmedabad today. Is happening. And what is happening today after Ayesha’s departure, it is certainly not an honor for Ayesha’s family members. After Ayesha’s last video went viral, we talked to some women who tried to tell us that it is better to get divorced than suffer a bad marriage or give up their lives. For this, the girl only needs support of her parents and siblings.
Parents realize mistake
After three years of marriage, Sunetra, who came to her maternal home after leaving her husband, told that she also had a child of one and a half years. His parents refused to keep him in the house and asked him to return. Then a relative gave refuge to Sunetra. Within four months, Sunetra stood on her feet after doing a course and in those four months her own family too realized their mistake and called Sunetra home. Today Sunetra is happy in her maiden house, has full support from her parents and she is earning herself and her daughter’s expenses. On seeing the video of Ayesha, shocked Sunetra asks why do girls like Ayesha get lonely when their in-laws are atrocities? Son, daughter grew up with the same slogan, why do we leave our daughters to marry and die. Now the law has given equal rights to the girls even in ancestral property, then why does the girl who came to her parents’ house feel a burden to her own family after being disturbed by the in-laws of the in-laws. Why don’t they accept him as their own boy. Why does the boy’s nose get cut off during the divorce of the daughter of his second married parents? The girl does the job, brings salary, can earn her own income, yet why do you consider her parents to be extinguished and send her back to the same world?
Brother-in-law’s attitude had changed
Nikita Singh, who has been divorced after being harassed by her husband and in-laws, tells her that her maternal uncles asked her to break the relationship when she did so. The attitude of brother and sister-in-law completely changed. Nikita says that it is often heard that we read, wrote, got married, gave whatever girl’s share in the dowry, now what has the girl to do with her maternal uncle? Nikita asks if my parents had spent less in the boy’s wedding? If the brother also earns, then I also earn good. Had the parents stayed home, they would have supported their house expenses, but they forced me to leave the maternal home. Today I live in a rented house with my 12 year old son. I and my son are happy today, away from the taunts of in-laws and maiden. First, the girl’s parents commit a dowry by first making a mistake, then by meeting the ever-increasing greed of the in-laws, and then the last mistake is made when they close the doors of their support for her. These rude greedy in-laws for your own daughter reinforce the intentions. They know that you will not take the girl back, the helpless girl will either bring a dowry or suffer a crime or like Ayesha will end her life by telling everyone innocent in the video.
Parents gave courage, today they are known lawyers
How important is the support of parents for a girl after the harassment from her in-laws and husband, and the heights she can achieve on the strength of that support, is a living example of Rekha Aggarwal, Senior Advocate of Delhi High Court. She says, I was only a BA pass girl at the time of marriage. In 1985, after three years of marriage, I left my in-laws and came to my maternal home. At that time, leaving the in-laws and talking about divorce was more taboo than today. Back then, there were very few divorces. I used to get very upset and even talked to my family about suicide. At such a time, my parents explained to me that you do not shed tears for a person who has tortured you mentally and physically. You cannot end your existence. My parents dared to understand their worth and learn to stand on their own feet. I started studying in my maternal home, became a lawyer and today I have made my identity in the society. All this is due to the support of my parents. Rekha is a well-known lawyer in the country and has fought many such cases in court. On the basis of his experiences, he says that there is a need to change the old thinking in the male dominated society in which the girl is taught that the money is alien and her dolly is raised from the maternal house, then the mother-in-law should be born. This thinking is instilled in girls from childhood, due to which girls are never able to get any support even after telling the problems of their in-laws to their family members. Whatever place you give to the son, the place has to be given to the daughter. Getting a divorce is not a crime.
You also have to understand
If you are the parents of a girl, then you might have been able to understand from these three stories that there is nothing more important than the life of your daughter. The husbands of the girls who lost their lives will get married again sometime in the morning, but your girl will not be brought back. The only cure for this is, listen to your troubled daughter, if they leave their in-laws, then become their support system, then the dowry greed will understand that your girl is not weak, because you are not weak. They will understand that if they are not going to get dowry anymore, then stay quietly in peace or get a divorce. You need to understand that a divorced girl, like Ayesha, is a thousand times better than a girl who commits suicide by having unfulfilled dreams.
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Disclaimer: The views expressed above are the author’s own